Life after your lover walks out: A Practical Guide
Published by Loving Healing Press (Published July, 2006)
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Life after Your Lover Walks Out : A Practical Guide</a>
This is my third book. It identifies the emotional stages you will experience, when your lover walks out, and guides the reader through this difficult time. The book is a 'down to earth - no nonsense guide.' Below, is one of the reviews the book has already received in the United States of America.
Here is a taste bite:
The experience of your lover walking out is devastating. It creates a situation where the abandoned partner is left to their own devices, in order to find out:
• Why this has occurred
• What they could have done to prevent it
• How to retrieve it
• How to ‘move on’
This book clearly identifies the thoughts and feelings that emerge during this difficult time, and offers immediate options, suggestions and ideas on how to cope with these destructive emotions. The chapters are called ‘Steps’ and begin ‘when your lover walks’ out to the final ‘Step,’ becoming a new you.
The emptiness, despair and fears experienced during this time are openly discussed. No stone is left unturned. This process is an essential element in moving on from a negative emotional experience to a positive emotional outcome. Any person, from whatever background, age or culture, who has been ‘unceremoniously’ dumped, will experience certain negative thought processes. As this book reveals, these are not unique to you but are universal activities. It provides the reader with realistic options on how to handle each Step on the way to emotional recovery.
The book can be read in less than two hours. It is deliberately written in a short, condensed style. This is in order to avoid wading through copious amounts of case studies that, in my opinion, are inconsequential to the abandoned partner during this difficult period. People in this situation are only interested in learning how to live through the emotional and practical issues that arise. This book searches the core of the problem and supports and directs the abandoned partner to a satisfactory, practical and emotional conclusion.
Life After Your Lover Walks Out: A Practical Guide, is a down to earth, no nonsense approach to the emotional turmoil when this happens.
It encourages the reader to open their eyes, accept what has happened and to view themselves, their life, and their future in a positive way.
REVIEW by Sam Vaknin, PHD
The dissolution of relationships, especially of the romantic variety,
leaves the abandoned partner dazzled, depleted, and traumatized. In such
a state of mind, one gropes for concise and hands-on non-nonsense
guidance. Regrettably, most self-help literature is bloated,
narcissistic, and off-topic. Not so this gem of a booklet. At 80 pages
it is manageable even by the most distracted and desperate reader.
Replete with bullet lists and steps, it is eminently practical but also
compassionate and conversational. Though it can be traversed from cover
to cover in less than 2 hours - it is the kind of book that keeps
attracting you to re-visit it as your healing progresses. Gradually, it
becomes one's personal diary, a dog-eared trusted friend that records
one's tears and one's recuperation. The author has been there and has
done that and this shows. But she is also a mental health practitioner
with a long and varied experience. If you know someone who has just been
painfully dumped by their significant other- buy them this booklet.
Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited".