How to Overcome Guilt: A Practical Guide ( a taste bite):
Everyone is familiar with ‘guilt.’ If you don’t have a conscience then you won’t feel guilty (psychopath). Guilt is what you feel when you believe you are responsible for an action or statement, that you now regret.
How is guilt separated?
• True guilt
• False guilt
True guilt is the guilt you feel when you know you have said or done something that goes against your moral code of conduct.
False guilt is the guilt you will feel even when you have done nothing wrong at all. It feels like shame, even thought you have no idea why it is you feel ashamed.
• The guilt of shame
• The guilt of embarrassment
• The guilt of humiliation
How to Forgive: A Practical Guide (a taste bite):
This book will identify the many aspects and meanings of the word ‘forgiveness’ and will attempt to enable you to understand exactly how being able to forgive someone is a basic, essential, necessary process in your life. The focus of this book is ‘forgiveness in adult relationships’. Forgiveness is such an important word and the action that follows the word is humbling if it is said and done genuinely and sincerely. The person apologising will feel vulnerable and embarrassed.
Ask yourself:
• Have you asked someone/your partner to forgive you?
• Have you really wanted to be forgiven by that person/your partner?
• Have you only asked to be forgiven in order to keep your partner happy and continue to believe that they are still in control of the relationship?
• Have you found it easy to ask for forgiveness?
• Have you asked for forgiveness so many times that you now feel de-valued and lacking self-worth?
• Have you paid the price of repeatedly asking for forgiveness from your partner even when you have done no wrong?
• Have you lost the love you had for your partner through accepting blame and because you have been expected to ask for forgiveness?
I will explore these questions and give some simple explanations in Step 2.
Forgive, what does it mean?
"Forgive" according to Webster's New World Dictionary, means: "to give up resentment against or the desire to punish; pardon; to overlook an offense; to cancel a debt."
How to Motivate a Lazy Partner: A Practical Guide (a taste bite):
If you are reading this introduction then you are living with a lazy partner. Why else would you be drawn to this book?
If you are living with someone who shirks responsibility, offloads accountability and does as little as possible, then this book will help you.
The book gives a dictionary definition of the significant words we use when referring to our partners so that we completely understand what we are saying when we use these words. It offers explanations and alternatives on how to handle each particular circumstance. Whilst this book is written for both sexes, I believe that women will be more inclined to want to grasp the mettle, challenge and change the dynamics of their relationship. This being the case, the suggestions and responses mentioned will, in the first instance, change the reader. Their partner, as a result of this change in behavior and responses, will be unconsciously compelled to change also. That’s the way it works. One partner changes and the other partner follows suit. It doesn’t matter who changes first as long as one of you does.
Life as we all know it is difficult. You need energy, enthusiasm, courage and determination to survive. We all have to try to stay strong in order to battle forth and focus on achieving a good life. You certainly don’t need to have your energy sapped from you by your partner. If you feel your life is running on an empty tank and you are tired and frustrated, it’s time to take a look at what you can do to change this situation. Take a journey with me and find out what you can do to make your relationship and living circumstances equal and acceptable.
“A human being is part of a whole, called by us the ‘Universe,’ a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separated from the rest—a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”
ALBERT EINSTEIN
How to be you again: A Practical Guide (a taste bite)
Do you want to be you? Do you fully understand the question? The question is do you want to be accepted and loved for the person you are inside yourself and not the person you present to the world? Are you masking your true feelings the majority of the time? Do you know that you have changed? Do you remember the person you were prior to changing? Do you like who you have become? Do you remember a time when you’re thinking and actions were different? Does your outward smile come from deep inside and reflect your inner peace and happiness?
Has the change in your behavior brought you happiness?
All these questions and many more will be looked at in this book. This book will attempt to peel back the layers of skin that you have used as a mask and a barrier and a defence system to camouflage the sensitive, insecure, frightened person you really are.
We all try to fit in. We all want to be loved. We all have a basic need to be wanted, needed and desired. How high is your price in achieving these goals? Are you still paying the price in order to have a reasonable life? Be honest with yourself and confront some challenging thoughts and find answers to some of these questions.
If you have over-compromised in your relationship, adopted the attributes of a chameleon and sold your soul to the devil in order to be accepted by your partner or family and friends, then perhaps the time is right to face your demons, slay them and put them to rest forever!
Who are you?’
I will attempt to explore all the avenues open to me in order to help you to uncover who you really are. I have often asked myself, ‘when did the change take place?’ I really can’t remember metarmophosising from a confident, articulate, independent person to a servile, frightened, inadequate, neurotic woman. Perhaps you feel the same way? Or perhaps you have never changed and have always been the way you are now. If this suits you and you are happy then read no further. The burning questions to ask yourself is, ‘are you happy being who you are now?’ Let’s begin to explore who you are.
Here are some examples to help you:
• Are you confident?
• Are you courageous?
• Are you over compromising most of the time?
• Are you in a healthy emotional relationship?
• Are you able to speak your mind?
• Are you experiencing intimidation?
• Are you being ignored?
• Are you fulfilled?
• Are you always putting other people’s needs before your own?
• Are you scared?
These are only some ideas to assist you in exploring how you became the person you are today. Let us now explore each of the above questions.
Are you confident?
People who have developed a new persona in order to camouflage who they really are and what they really think, do this so that the camouflage they have created can act as barrier to avoid being hurt, intimidated and rejected. Everyone reading this book could, in all probability, do with a little more confidence. Confidence incorporates self-awareness, body language, emotions (thoughts and feelings), strengths, self-belief.