Published March, 2009 by Loving Healing Press

Step 1. What is jealousy?

The focus of this book is to understand and recover from the emotion of jealousy within a relationship/marriage/partnership. Step 1 will concentrate on jealousy. Step 2 will concentrate of Envy and in Step 3, I will attempt to explain each type of jealousy before moving on to the thoughts, feelings, speech and action that takes place when jealousy in present in your relationship.

‘Jealousy is typically used to describe the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival’. Jealousy is a destructive emotion hell-bent on causing unhappiness. Jealousy can strike at any moment eroding your mind and heart with thoughts and feelings that are meant to be emotionally destructive. Jealousy cunningly lies under the surface of love, hate and desire waiting for the opportunity to jump out and show itself. Jealousy takes pleasure in sowing seeds of discontentment in your mind, and is only sated when disharmony occurs. All of us have experienced jealousy of some description. I believe jealousy is the result of a creative over-active imagination. If you have a seed of doubt in your mind about your partner and/or your relationship your jealous thought will take you through a series of negative scenarios as a means of torturing you. It feels terrible but you, somehow, can’t stop or help yourself from sliding down the road to despair. Jealousy brings about an emotional state of being ‘out of control.’ Only someone who has experienced jealousy can fully comprehend how awful this feeling is. You know what you are doing but you can’t stop it. Jealousy feeds you the mental images of your worst scenario and leaves you feeling angry, empty, dissatisfied. Being jealous says a lot about who you are.

This book is now out in hardback version